This month two of my friends will mark the first anniversary of the death of their husbands.
Anniversaries are hard for many reasons. It’s been my experience very few people remember these types of uncomfortable dates, especially after the first year has passed–even fewer remember as time moves slowly on.
In fear of doing something wrong and/or dragging up more pain, most will opt to do nothing.
If, like me, know someone who has had a difficult loss, I believe the best gift you can give them is time.
With all the modern technologies literally at our fingertips, it’s so easy to pick up the cell phone and leave a voice message or send a text. This type of non-intrusive message gives the person the space and luxury of answering immediately or waiting until he or she is ready. Plus, in a matter of minutes, your grieving friend knows someone remembers and is thinking of them.
Reach out, my friends, because it’s a road we will all walk down in one way or another.
Help me, God, to listen with my entire being. When I am in pain, give me the courage to trust others enough to bare my heart to them. And when there is no one to listen, hear me, God. Hear me and heal me. Amen
Rabbi Naomi Levy, To Begin Again
~Peace be with you.~