“How can a person deal with anxiety? You might try what one fellow did. He worried so much that he decided to hire someone to do his worrying for him. He found a man who agreed to be his hired worrier for a salary of $200,000 per year. After the man accepted the job, his first question to his boss was, “Where are you going to get $200,000 per year?” To which the man responded, “That’s your worry.”
― Max Lucado
I come from a family of worriers. With age, I have become a master worrier.
With the gift of more time, I now have the opportunity to check in with my sister. Since I am not rushed, I listen to her talk a more critical ear, hearing some clues she may also be a card-carrying worrier.
I’ve discovered even though we cannot fix the things giving us both some anxiety, by talking about the things causing our “concerns,” we can lessen our worry meter spikes. By reaching out to each other, we stop the whirlwind of uncontrolled thoughts. Most days, by the time we’ve unloaded our worries, we each leave the conversation feeling things are more manageable and much less dire.
You have to love these successful lessons and celebrate the joys of caring and sharing.
“Never worry alone. When anxiety grabs my mind, it is self-perpetuating. Worrisome thoughts reproduce faster than rabbits, so one of the most powerful ways to stop the spiral of worry is simply to disclose my worry to a friend… The simple act of reassurance from another human being [becomes] a tool of the Spirit to cast out fear — because peace and fear are both contagious.”
― John Ortberg Jr., The Me I Want to Be: Becoming God’s Best Version of You